Everyone is looking for love and few find a love that lasts a lifetime. But you can…there’s a secret language, and you’re closer than you think to finding out that secret. Learning a love language can be hard, but it can be more fun than a person should be allowed to have too.
You’ve likely heard people refer to a “love language”. This could mean many things, but what this is about, is the type of language of love that people speak natively, and to each other.
Whether you realize it or not, you have your very own primary love language. When someone speaks in your native love language you feel closer to them than those that don’t. When someone goes out of their way to learn what makes you tick at a primitive level, that’s something to hold on to.
What are the Five Love Languages?
- Words of Affirmation – Compliments and Kindness
- Quality Time – Time Spent Well
- Receiving Gifts – Gifts Given and Received
- Acts of Service – Sacrifice and Doing Deeds
- Physical Touch – Hugs, Kisses and Caresses
The above are the five primary love languages that all humans speak. Knowing yours will give you insight into yourself, knowing you loved ones will give you practically direct access to their hearts.
Are There Really Only Five?
Yes. There are only five primary love languages. That said, there are as many unique and distinct dialects within the love languages as there are people in the world.
There are also combinations, many people have a secondary and tertiary (third) love language. These are not as strong as their primary, but if you can master all of a person’s love languages and “speak” to them in all of them, then you’ll be among their most treasured relationships.
Is Learning a Love Language Easy?
Like so many things in life, the answer to that is, it depends.
Is learning any language that is foreign to you easy? Not for most people. But learning a language that is close to their own is far easier, and learning the idiosyncrasies of the same language is quite easy.
So for example, if your love language is words of affirmation, then you are likely going to be able to speak to others with the same love language pretty fluently, even though their dialect might be a bit different than yours.
You’ll probably also be able to relate fairly well with those that speak quality time, because the two are somewhat related.
However, you are probably going to have to stretch yourself a bit to figure out someone that speaks acts of service, and you could find someone that understands receiving gifts a bit…materialistic.