Unlike some journey’s with a static, single goal…where you start and where you end up are variable the only constant is the journey itself. So like the tag-line above states, “if you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.” The specific location you start isn’t important, the one single thing that is of UTMOST importance is simply this: Start!
I of course would recommend that you begin by reading this page, the one that you are on now. But by all means, if something in the list below screams at you then jump…like now!
The following list is full of the beginning concepts that you need to start understanding and embracing. Once you’re done with this page, simply choose one…any one and keep going!
- Affinity – Relationships, love, marriage, bonding and connections. This is the concept of caring, the one that ultimately comes to mind as one lay dying. Take the time, do it right, give a shit!
- Affluence – The ability to understand that we live in a universe where abundance is…well…abundant. Affluence isn’t just about money, it’s about what you need and having enough of it. It’s about KNOWING that you will have what you need when you need it, and understanding that you may not know what you need and to perform magic when it SEEMS like you don’t have enough.
- Altruism – This isn’t about some random charity you give to once a year, although that too falls under this concept, it’s about living generously, helping when you can in small ways as well as bit, every day, all the time!
- Aspect – Simply put this is about perspective. Perspective is one of the most important things we can develop. It’s about understanding limitations and turning them into opportunities. It’s about interpreting things we often see as slights, and realizing that your likely on the verge of a paradigm shift!
- Blog – Each concept on the various pages are also categories within the blog, all posts will fall into one of these categories…well, I’m not above a stray miscellaneous post from time to time. In some cases you’ll find articles and other cases reviews. Browse them all by clicking on the blog link or click on the individual sub-links below:
What is Freedom?
This word freedom is such a simple little word, and at its core it means (according to Google):
- the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.
So when people utter this often overused word, is that what they mean?
If you are currently within a free country reading this then I think not. I think a more accurate definition of what people mean when they say they want to be free is: The ability to do what one wants, when and how one wants to do it, with whomever one wishes to do it with, for as long as one wishes to be doing it.
Let’s face it, if you don’t want to go to work in the morning, do you have the freedom to make that choice? If you do have the freedom to make that choice, how long could you do it and still put food in your mouth?
So I think it’s safe to say, assuming we can agree on the definition of freedom, many of us are going to feel that we are free according to Google’s definition, but most of us would not be able to assert our “freedom” in the constraints of the second definition.
What do You Want?
If I ask you: What do you want?
You’re likely to tell me that you want to be happy, successful, famous and/or rich. That’s what many people seem to want.
Saying that you want to be rich is basically saying the same thing as “I want to be free”. I mean, nobody wants to be rich because of the money. Money is a means to an end, its value only worth that which society places on it. It won’t warm you (unless you burn it). It won’t transport you (directly) from here to there, and you can’t eat it.
With enough of it you can choose when you work, how long you work, what you work on, where you go, how long you stay there, what you do while you are there, and to some degree even who you spend time with while you are there. In other words…Freedom…or so you think.
Let’s look at the other term you likely used: Successful
What does that mean, does it mean that you wish to be rich? Married exactly once? Does it mean that you want children? To have a lot of friends? All or none of the above???
What about the term happy? What would “make” you happy? Seems less simple than before doesn’t it?
What does it mean to be free to YOU? Successful to YOU? Happy to YOU?
It’s All in YOUR Definition
The first thing to realize is that each person’s definition is going to be very different from the next person’s. Many of us believe that freedom or success is something that we “gain” when we have enough money, or when some ambiguous “finish line” is reached or event in our life happens. THEN we’ll be truly happy, right? Don’t hold your breath…
I’ve seen people with money be trapped by their minds, their loneliness, their health, and their relationships. I’ve seen those that already have the love of their lives trade them for the pursuit of financial interests. I’ve seen people perfectly healthy and fit, dive into despair because of grief, disappointment or a perceived loss of self worth.
Freedom isn’t someplace where you arrive, it’s the journey of finite steps that only ends when you breathe your last. It’s something to be enjoyed daily, hell every minute!
That isn’t to say that you should do whatever the hell makes you happy every second of every day, God knows that there’s far too much of that drivel in the world today. But every second SHOULD be spent in the pursuit of what you love, and what you love…needs to be defined.
So many people will cheat on their spouse, because it made them feel young, or alive…and therefore happy…in the moment. This of course inevitably leads to bitter consequences later both internally as well as to those we love. That does not sound like happiness to me, it does not sound like freedom. It sounds like an elaborately self made trap whose key is likely only garnered through the alienation of the one cheated on.
Some choose suicide to deal with the temporary problems of life because “life just isn’t worth living without [fill in the blank]“. Suicide is another very selfish act because even if NOBODY actually cares whether you live or die, a situation almost nobody finds themselves in truly, you still impact people.
Think about it from a very simplistic standpoint…how many times have exclusions had to be made and privileges to the many lost because of one selfish person? You might think, “who cares? I’m dead. Not my problem any more.” And you’d be right, but that is definitely not the thoughts of a person that is altruistic, whose aspect is diseased. Those are the thoughts of someone that is truly selfish. Of course, if someone should actually care about you (which undoubtedly is true) then you’ve also violated love’s affinity on a fundamental level.
There’s always hope, there’s always tomorrow. Who knows, maybe someone will come along that is more caring at that particular moment than you, an altruistic person, someone that might show you a new way, or give you hope even if you yourself have none.
People, if the point is to achieve freedom and success…the definition as it pertains to you must be determined! Boundaries must be set! How else can you stop reacting, and becoming angry about things that don’t matter?
Know what Your Boundaries Are
In order to know when to become defensive about something, that is to say, when it makes sense to become defensive so that your time, temper and mood are not violated by every little injustice (imagined or real) that happens at any given moment on any day you MUST know when that is. The only way to know that, is to define what actually matters to you!
I cannot count the times that I became angry about some slight that “happened” because of someone or something. It seemed like I was angry all the time. Little things that wouldn’t matter to anyone would set me off and they would be these huge insurmountable obstacles, everything was a catastrophe!
I can tell you, it’s exhausting being angry. It’s exhausting to hold a grudge.
How many times have you gotten angry about something, or hurt about something, that later on you realized mattered little, or even not at all?
Freedom isn’t just about finances, it’s not just about love, it’s not just about giving back and feeling good about yourself, it’s not just about perspective. It’s about all of them. It’s about defining what matters.
It’s not even about knowing what you want to do with the rest of your life, but HOW you want to be the rest of your life regardless of WHAT it is that you do. Maybe you don’t know what you want to do, that doesn’t matter right now. What does matter is how you do what you do. How you think about what you do.
We all have something to offer someone, do something! It doesn’t have to be what you do forever, it only has to be what you do right now!
Redefining Freedom in Your Image
Let’s try a new definition; freedom is: The ability to keep the appropriate aspect in all things so that you can eliminate negative energy and expend positive energies in the pursuit of sincere altruism toward your fellow man while growing from and with affinity in relationships that are mutually beneficial in order to achieve the right amount of affluence enabling you to do what you want, with whomever you want, whenever you want, however you want, and for as long as you want.
How does that sound?
Is it clear? Freedom isn’t someplace you go to, it’s not some place that gets visited from time to time.
Freedom is a journey that does not end, so long as you breathe!